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Relationship Advice for Creating the Relationship You Want

Create the Relationship that
You Want


by Susie and Otto Collins, Relationship Coaches

Creating a relationship that is filled with passion, love and connection
is possible and we're going to tell you how.

We believe that anyone can create the relationship that they want by
applying some simple ideas in their life and having the commitment
and desire to go for what you want.

To help you create a great relationship, here is some of our best advice:

1. It doesn't matter whether you need marriage advice or dating advice,
it's important tobegin focusing on what you want in your relationship. So
often, couples put their relationship last in priority in their lives and they
wake up one morning and find that their relationship has disintegrated
Begin focusing your attention on your relationship and how you want it
to be, rather than what you don't want.


2. Trust is the foundation of any relationship. For many couples, fears from
the past get in the way of having a trusting, connected relationship. These
might include fearing not being good enough, attractive enough, wealthy
enough or even feelings of abandonment. Do whatever it takes to deal
with those fears that interfere with trusting those you love.

3. Communication problems is often one of the biggest issues that keep
people from having great relationships. One person may agree just to
keep the peace and another person may be wanting to be loved and
appreciated in a certain way but are not willing to say it. Both people
end up withholding their truth from each another because of fear and
even more distance is created between them.

To improve your communication, make sure that each of you listens to
each other without judgment. This is a skill that you'll need to learn because
most of us haven't been taught how but it's central to learning how to
communicate with one another in a healthy way. Make sure that you
learn to ask for what you want in a way that the other person can hear.

4. If you or your partner are jealous, take steps to heal this problem. Most
couples avoid looking at and doing something about problems like jealousy
that exist in their relationship until it's too late and their relationship ends in
a breakup or divorce. If you don't tackle this issue when it comes up, it tends
to fester and comes up anyway as resentment and other ways that can harm
your relationship. Jealousy can be healed and eliminated. Know that you
can learn the skills to heal it and move on with your life.

5.Create more romance in your relationship and you'll begin to create
your relationship the way you want it to be. You can bring more romance
by appreciating each other on a daily basis. Everyone wants to feel
understood, valued, loved and appreciated and when we're not, we tend to
either withdraw or attack the other person for not meeting our needs. If this
happens, this certainly can inhibit romance between the two of you. We suggest
that if you want to enhance love in your relationship, you begin to be more loving
and just see what happens.

For more advice about creating great relationships, visit http://www.SusieandOtto.com